Tomorrow, BB will be moving into his own room. I mean, I know it’s not like he’s leaving home or anything, but the thought makes us both a little sad, nevertheless.
He’s roomed in with us from birth – first in his moses basket, then his crib and now his giant cot that takes up lots of room and causes poor jay to stub her toe or bark her shin on the end of the bed as she squeezes round to her side. We decided early on that co-sleeping wasn’t going to work out for us, but we’ve loved having our boy right next to us through the night.
And now it’s time to move on, we think. It seems that we’re disturbing him regularly when we retire for the night and sometimes again during the night when one of us needs to go and pee. A waking usually means a quick feed to help get him off to sleep again, which is no huge thing (lucky us), but once you couple those extra night-feeds in with the fact that he needs dodie-replacement services several times a night (due to being swaddled) and his new determination to swaddle-bust at all costs unless he’s super tired that’s a whole lot of fidgeting and restlessness and in-and-out-of-bedding and unnecessarily early mornings.
Also, I’m a mother hen, I know, and some nights every stir and moan and shuffle and sigh has me on edge. I lie awake wondering if he’s going to drift off again peacefully or if he’s going to wake up fully and whether there’s any anything I could or should do to promote the former and prevent the latter.
People, I feel like a total heel moaning about the fact that my sleeping baby’s noisy sighing is keeping me awake when I know that so many of you are dealing with major sleep issues right now, but we’re both getting really tired.
We’re really hoping that moving him to his own room will help him sleep better, undisturbed by noisy mothers with weak bladders, will help me sleep better, tuned out a little further from his nocturnal rustling and will help jay sleep better, no longer lurched out of sleep by her demented, neurotic wife leaping in and out of bed every five minutes.
Still, we’ll miss him.
vee xxx
8 responses so far ↓
Calliope // November 12, 2009 at 9:28 pm |
I so get this. W has been sleeping in his room for the past couple of weeks because I had to start sleep training because neither one of us was getting any shut eye. It felt so empty and wrong the first two nights. But slowly there was a shift and it now feels like we are both getting much better sleep. Of course I still bring him to my bed to nurse around 6am and it is like this lovey reunion.
xo
K // November 12, 2009 at 9:52 pm |
Wow, I’m impressed you made it this far! We relocated E around 8 weeks because I was too sensitive to his sleeping baby noises. We work so hard to get these little guys here – I think it’s impossible not to be at least a little neurotic about them and their well-being. When E was in our room, I knew he was okay… but I had to check anyway. Once he was across the hall, we all started sleeping a lot better.
Good luck with the transition!
Nutella // November 13, 2009 at 12:07 am |
I could not sleep with Miles in our room. Every hormone sharpened nerve was on end as I listened to each peep, snort, and rustle. After 3 weeks we moved him to his room right next door and sleep got better and better. I did miss seeing him sleep, but sometimes in the morning I can still catch him at it. Good luck with the transition, and may there be good sleep for all!
sn // November 13, 2009 at 3:28 am |
it’s so hard to do, but you’ll all be sleeping better soon, and you won’t regret it.
wishinghopingpraying // November 13, 2009 at 6:30 am |
It’s hard, and a little sad, but it’s soooo nice. I promise. After the first night of worrying you will enjoy the extra space and freedom.
k77 // November 13, 2009 at 10:35 am |
I am always puzzled by people saying how noisily their kids sleep. We’ve had 15 months of cosleeping with TTG so far, and 5 1/2 years with TBB (though he’s been moving towards at least partial sleep independence in the last 6 months) and they are just not noisy. Noisy when awake though!
rhetorician // November 13, 2009 at 7:30 pm |
we moved c out at around 6 months – like you, we were waking her when we went to bed and no-one was sleeping well. Unless you live in a mansion, you’ll hear him if he needs you! Anyway, it’s nice to have your own room back, and to be able to read in bed again. You’ll miss him for about 2 days and then if you have to share again you’ll be really pissed off…
Two Moms, Two Monkeyss // November 15, 2009 at 1:41 am |
I think we did it backwards! Instead of sending the boys packing to the nursery, we have moved out to the living room (made our bed out of the couch and ottoman put together) while the boys took over our KING sized bed. Nice huh! We still do the co-sleeping each of us with one of them but just long enough for them to fall asleep and then we sneak out (for all the same reasons you mentioned!). Maybe I will see if we each fit in a crib?