Comments on: Bereft

By: scarredbellybutton

scarredbellybutton — Tue, 05 May 2009 11:00:53 +0000

TTG is 9 months old and I miss it. I didn’t really start feeling physically ok due to my back pain and nausea/vomiting until 34 weeks, so those last 5 weeks went so quickly.

Like halfadozen, it’s hard for me to believe it really happened. Except for the flab and the c/s scar.

By: Whozat

Whozat — Sun, 03 May 2009 21:15:31 +0000

Yes, I still miss that.

Peeper’s six months old (!) and when I feel belly-stuff, I still think for a moment that it’s her.

Then I think, “What the hell did I eat?!”

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 03 May 2009 01:19:29 +0000

i totally missed being pregnant after my daughter was born (and still do) and felt a bit (understatement) jealous when my wife was pregnant with our 2nd one because we both only ever wanted 2 kids which means i’ll never be pregnant again. i can TOTALLY relate!

By: Calliope

Calliope — Sat, 02 May 2009 14:24:48 +0000

Oh I miss having WW in me so so much. I miss feeling him flip around. I think when I have anxious moments (400 times a day at least) I wish he was back inside because then there is less chance of me fucking something up.

By: sn

sn — Sat, 02 May 2009 12:46:06 +0000

how you’re feeling makes so much sense. your pregnancy was so hard won, and so wanted. and pregnancy is extraordinary, strange and amazing in so many ways. i felt the same way as you when our daughter was BB’s age, but now every belly bump i see on the street reminds me of the heat and exhaustitude of my pregnancy. i am so thankful to have our daughter and to not be pregnant right now.

By: reproducinggenius

reproducinggenius — Sat, 02 May 2009 02:31:33 +0000

I don’t think you’re odd in the least. I already know I’m going to miss it. There is nothing like this feeling, nothing quite so sacred.

By: oneofhismoms

oneofhismoms — Sat, 02 May 2009 01:58:15 +0000

About ten minutes after Trucker was born, I was ready to try for number three.

Nine months later, when I look at my co-worker who is very pregnant, also teaching on the unair-conditioned 4th floor walk-up… I’m glad I have Trucker, rather than the bump.

But sometimes I miss it. And I do get sad thinking that that will be the only time I get to give birth.

By: S.

S. — Fri, 01 May 2009 20:48:00 +0000

I caught myself rubbing my belly for months after.

By: j.k-c.

j.k-c. — Fri, 01 May 2009 18:35:25 +0000

I miss it terribly. I find it odd that I can’t quite remember all the details of what it was like. It’s hard to explain. I guess it’s sort of like waking up from a GREAT dream and realizing it was a dream. The memory of being pregnant feels like a dream.
I LOVED being pregnant and I miss it so much. I feel lonely sometimes, since there isn’t that little guy with me for every second of my day. It feels sad and empty.
You are not alone in this. I think this is why so many women try to get pregnant again right away. It’s almost like the baby is a second thought….just wanting to be pregnant again is the first thought.
When I get really sad I remind myself of things I like about being not pregnant, like normal size ankles, tie shoes, ability to bend and walk, fitting into bathroom stalls without having to touch anything, wearing my wedding ring, efficiency.

By: notesfrom2moms

notesfrom2moms — Fri, 01 May 2009 16:42:46 +0000

This didn’t hit me until month 5ish… I still get a tickle in my abdomen from time to time and think it is a kick before realizing. I miss the all consuming constant closeness. Even cuddling doesn’t get that close.